Something Wonderful Is Going to Happen Today
This isn’t a post about me virtue signaling that I’m a good person. If anything, it’s the opposite. This is a selfish post. Because today, I was reminded of something every psychology book, self-help article, and therapist has told me for years: one of the best ways to get out of your own head is to do something for somebody else.
Today, I actually felt it.
I took Cleo to the dog park to play fetch. Cleo has no interest in making friends. She has no interest in sniffing around or socializing with other dogs. She has one purpose in life: ball. Because of this, I always bring two balls. Other dogs inevitably steal her ball, because apparently “keep away” is a much more popular dog game than “fetch.” Cleo does not have time for those games. Today, there was another dog there with a mom and her young son. Their dog watched Cleo playing fetch and clearly wanted in. The kid looked around for a ball but couldn’t find one.
So I tossed him my extra ball.
You would have thought I handed him a winning lottery ticket.
He was so excited to throw it for his dog. When Cleo and I were leaving, the mom called out, “Wait! We have your ball!”
I told them to keep it for their dog, or leave it there for the next dog that came along. The look on their faces was like I had given them a million dollars.
That ball cost me about ten cents. I buy them in bulk. Ten cents bought happiness for a kid, his mom, their dog, my dog, and me.
Pretty good return on investment.
Later, I stopped at a corner store to buy a bottle of gin for a celebratory martini. I hadn’t had one in a month because of Ironman 70.3 training. Last night, after the race, it would have wrecked me. Today is recovery week. I’ll survive.
The guy in front of me looked like a painter, covered in paint after a day of work. He was buying three cans of beer. His card was declined. He checked his bank account and said, “There’s a three-day hold. I thought I had at least ten bucks in there.”
The cashier, who clearly knew him, said it was okay. “Just pay me tomorrow.”
The total was $12.55.
After he left, I paid for his beer along with my gin and told the cashier that if the guy came back tomorrow, he didn’t owe anything.
I was going to leave it there. But as I drove home, I saw him walking a block away. I rolled down my window and said, “Hey, just so you know, I squared you up. Don’t let him take your money tomorrow.”
He looked stunned. He thanked me, asked my name, introduced himself, and that was it.
The thing is, I’ve been that guy. When I was dating my wife, she used to call the bank before going to the ATM to see how much money she could take out. This was before internet banking. Sometimes the question wasn’t, “Do I have enough money?” The question was, “Can I take out twenty dollars, or do I only have five?” And back when ATMs gave out five-dollar bills, that was a real thing.
I’ve waited for checks to clear. I’ve had friends slip me gas money. I’ve had people bring me a couple of bags of groceries when I was a broke college student.
This wasn’t charity. This was repayment. A tiny installment on a debt I owe to every person who ever quietly helped me when I needed it.
I’m trying to embrace that idea I’ve heard in so many spiritual traditions: “It’s we.”
We’re all one.
And honestly, both of these moments made me feel better about life.
First, I felt grateful that I am now in a place where I can spend ten dollars—or twelve dollars and fifty-five cents—without worrying whether I can make rent.
Second, there is something deeply satisfying about unexpectedly making someone else’s day better.
Third, and maybe most importantly, it reminded me that there is still a lot of good happening around us.
I spend too much time reading newspapers, scrolling social media, and absorbing the message that everything is terrible and getting worse. But that isn’t the whole story.
The other day, I parked downtown for a doctor’s appointment. The validation sticker made the parking free.
Free.
In Chicago, I was expecting “half off,” which usually means they only rob you for $30 instead of $60.
Instead, I drove away happy.
The night before my race, my family and I went out for pizza. The manager apologized for the wait and brought us a large pizza even though we had ordered a small.
“We’ll only charge you for the small,” she said.
Great.
Then ten minutes later, she came back.
“Funny story. The kitchen made your small pizza too. We’ll box it up for you.”
Even better.
Then the bill came.
No charge for any pizza. Oh, and there was no ” wait.” Don’t know what she was talking about.
No matter, I still have a refrigerator full of free pizza.
Granted, I was so nervous about the race that I ate one slice that night. Anxiety is a great appetite suppressant.
But that’s not the point.
The point is that little wonderful things happen every day.
I once saw an old black-and-white video of a man saying:
“Every morning when you wake up, tell yourself, ‘Something wonderful is going to happen to me today.'”
And eventually, it will.
Not because the universe is magically delivering presents to you.
Because you start noticing.
The free parking.
The extra pizza.
The dog with a new ball.
The stranger who doesn’t have to worry about finding $12.55 tomorrow.
I used to write that sentence in my journal every morning: Something wonderful is going to happen to me today. I got away from that habit.
I think I need to get back to it. Not just believing that something wonderful will happen to me and finding that thing each day, but t remembering that sometimes, if I pay attention, I can be the reason something wonderful happens to someone else.
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